‘…most middle class people are taught from birth how to manage: finance, emotions, family, other people, expectations…it’s just like your whole life is just…you are just learning management skills all the time - HKB FiNN

HKB FiNN gave #TUWOG more than was bargained for and as FayFay will attest to, cutting this down was hard -so many juicy bits! Trying to summarise it all, even harder so, let the timestamp below be your guide 🤓

Timestamp

• Origin story (05:38)

• The black barrier (11:58) 

• Using the powers of mimicry to win friends (20:20)

• Subcultures in England (21:28)

• A nomad’s guide to emotional investments into friendship (24:58)

• Self editing to be present for others (37:45)

• The one about the city you live in, the energy it demands of you and the relationships you have with people as a result (41:09) 

• Opportunity comes but once? (42:32) 

• And what does it mean to be black and undefined? (45:27)

• Taking the scenic route brings its own opportunity for reclamation (48:11)

• Forgiving your aggressors is its own type of healing (55:33)

• You are more than the things that happened to you (58:07)

• Negotiating with the erasure of self due to trauma (1:00:32)

• Damage versus damage - are you addicted to pain? (01:03:38)

• People don’t kill love, shotguns kill love (01:06:38)

• Sooooo...do you want liver with that? (01:10:47)

• On generational (financial) intelligence (01:36:00) 

• Effort + time + quality = success? (01:45:27) 

• Embarrassing moment in four words (01:52:14)

• The Unsullied Book Club (01:53:45)

The Unsullied Book Club

HKB FiNN recommends:

1. ‘The Alchemist’ by Paolo Cohelo. Available on: Amazon and Apple.

2. ’The Art of War’ by Sun Tzu. Available on: Amazon and Apple.

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